I have always been such an extremist and I recently started to realize that that is what was hurting me. Sometimes being “too healthy” can become the start of an eating disorder.
Sometimes you need to just get real. You don't need a diet, or restrict yourself from anything all together.
I am real about getting healthy and creating balance. I know that creating my own sense of balance took until I was in my mid-twenties, and even now I find myself teetering off balance ever once in a while. Sometimes life gets shaken up, and you need to find a way stay as healthy and grounded as possible.
For years I struggled to find my balance. I would excessively diet or go to the gym twice a day. I wouldn't go out with friends because I didn't want to ruin my workout by drinking alcohol and cancel out my hard work. I would get very anxious if I ate something that wasn't healthy, and I would feel guilty. This would lead me to go to extremes to try to lose weight. I was so unhappy it consumed me - I was sick. I had an unhealthy relationship with food.
I would be lying if I said I never treated myself and that I don’t have the odd cheat day, or skip the gym from time to time. Sometimes, it’s a vacation, and for the entire week I find myself thrown right off balance. I have the odd week where I spend so much time helping other people with their nutrition, and I go home to an empty fridge. Although I occasionally drink alcohol and indulge in unhealthy foods, I still consider myself to be extremely health conscious, just not in a way that hinders my enjoyment of life. As someone with an extreme personality, I’m usually either all-in, or "off the wagon". I must say, when trying to maintain a balanced lifestyle, that isn't the best way to be. What I encourage my clients to do, is to be realistic about their health in relation to their lifestyle. This is something I have been working on myself.
If you enjoy drink, I would recommend to buy one beautiful bottle a week of your favourite red wine and have a glass each night – really savour it. There are a multitude of nutritional benefits to drinking red wine in moderation, including antioxidants for good heart health. This way, you get to really appreciate your indulgence, instead of mindlessly consuming something that is more detrimental to your health than it is enjoyable for your palate. Sometimes finding a balance is about taking control back. It is your life and of your health. Some people need to set goals to be held accountable, but being realistic is usually what keeps my clients happy and hitting their goals.
Creating a balance isn't the same for everyone. For me, a balance is making mindful decisions about what I am putting into my body and being organized, without restricting myself from indulging from time to time! I can finally say that I am healthy, but also that I am happy - I found my balance.
TIPS ON HOW TO CREATE YOUR OWN SENSE OF BALANCE
Eat Well - How we nourish ourselves is how we love ourselves. Be mindful of what you are putting into your body.
Workout- sweating releases toxins from our bodies as well as releases powerful endorphins that help us look and feel better. Get fit and get happy!
Rest- take some time every single day to relax and just reconnect to yourself.
Disconnect - Turn off your phone / Laptop / TV at a reasonable hour and just be at one with yourself with no distractions. It can all become far too overwhelming and consuming — very addictive.
Set Boundaries - If you don’t like the way that a person makes you feel whether it is a friend, family member or coworker set boundaries for that relationship. You don’t need to force relationships its a waste of energy.
Build up healthy relationships - Spend time with anyone who helps you grow and who makes you want to be a better person.
Spend time alone - this was a big one for me, I was always used to being with people and distracted. I never really took the opportunity to just spend time getting to know myself apart from others.. when you take time out for yourself that is when you can truly fall in love with yourself.
TREAT YOURSELF ON A DAILY BASIS TO SOMETHING THAT YOU LOVE AND THAT MAKES YOU FEEL AMAZING!